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Monday, October 23, 2006,5:08 PM
I Really Stepped In It This Time
You may remember my rant back in August about my matchmaking friends. Well, today my very good friend who also happens to be on the top of the list of matchmaking busybodies was talking to me about her new Operations Manager. Evidently he's in my age range, is single, and is looking to date someone. I met him on Saturday and thought he was attractive, but didn't really think anything about it. So, she asked me if I thought he was attractive. Without even thinking about it, I said yes. Stupid, stupid, stupid. Usually, I won't answer her or I'll say no. Needless to say, she was doing the happy dance when I dropped her off at work and was threatening to give him my phone number.

Here's the thing ~ I don't date. Ever. I've never been good with the whole private getting to know you kind of thing. I much prefer a group setting and getting to know someone that way. Then I know enough about the person as to whether I want to go on a date with him or not. I'm not a casual dater. Never have been. Never will. Anyway, there's been a lot of deep, calming breathing going on since I got home. I'm starting to feel better now.

The job at Barnes & Noble sounds promising. I dropped off my application and resume today. I was pretty much told I'd be called in when they start training the seasonal staff and from there I'm hoping to stay on part-time at the very least on a fill-in basis. PS ~ If I get the job, friends and family can pretty much count on books for Christmas.


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  • At 6:03 PM, Blogger ames

    Aw Devonna-your friend sucks for threatening to give that guy your number. I hate the pressure from friends and family to "get out there." Sheesh. HUGS!!

    Hope you get the B&N job. Sounds like a good deal. :P

  • At 6:53 PM, Blogger Stacy~

    I am so with ya Devonna. My co-worker wants to set me up with this guy, and she wants it to be at some restaurant where everyone will be staring at us - talk about uncomfortable. I don't want to be like a bug under a microscope. Let it happen naturally, without all those expectations. I don't deal well under pressure.

    I just put in my notice @ B&N. I work in the cafe, and took the summer off, now I've decided, after 4 yrs, to say adios. It's tough, and I'm really gonna miss the discount. But it's time. Good luck with everything.

  • At 8:09 PM, Blogger Isabel

    Good luck with Barnes and Noble. I would love to work there.

    That sucks about the friend threatening to give out your number. Dating sucks period. The group setting is more relaxing.

    Even if she does give out your number, no one says you have to go out with him.

  • At 8:17 PM, Blogger Devonna

    Ames ~ Turns out she didn't give out my number, but she has setup something for November. Not a "date" per sey, but a group of us are going to go listen to her husband's band. Evidently this guy is a musician also.

    Stacy ~ I read that you just quit over at B&N. I couldn't work in the cafe ~ I am afraid of espresso machines. Seriously. I had one explode on my hand once at work. Evidently a water line got clogged.

    Izzy ~ Evidently, something is setup for November. I don't know the date ~ but I told her I was pretty sure I was busy that night. This will be seasonal help @ B&N but I'm hoping it will turn into a permanent full-time gig.

  • At 8:26 PM, Blogger Jennie

    I'm with you on the dating thing. Blah what a nightmare it is! So much easier to get to know someone as a friend first. Less pressure.

    Good luck with B&N! I worked at one through college and had a lot of fun. And the discount is great. :)

  • At 9:14 PM, Blogger Holly

    Ugh. I'm so with you about not wanting to do that first date thing. When I met MM it was at Monday night football with a TON of other people, and that worked out very well. But had he just called and asked me out? Pffft. Sorry, nope.

    Stupid friends and stupid setting ups. LOL

    B&N sounds promising. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you, but only if you add me to the list of "friends" who will get a book for Christmas. LOL

  • At 9:24 PM, Blogger Devonna

    Jennie ~ The extra money would sure be good ~ plus who wouldn't like a book? :-) Actually, I'm the only one in my family who enjoys to read ~ except for my niece (she takes after me).

    Holly ~ She works fast. From the time I dropped her off at work at 4:15 to the time we went grocery shopping at 6:30 ~ she'd already set something in motion. I'm just glad it's a group thing.

  • At 2:24 AM, Blogger Rosie

    My husband was a set up by a friend. Several people got together for dinner. The dinner didn't go well, but he got my number from someone and called "just to talk". The rest is history.

    I'm glad your friend didn't put you in an uncomfortable situation. Now you can relax and see what happens.

    As for B&N good luck especially starting in the busiest season for retail of the year!

  • At 7:58 AM, Blogger Devonna

    Rosie ~ I'm going to try to keep an open mind about this whole group thing. As far as B&N ~ I'm really excited. Being busy doesn't bother me ~ it's much better than the alternative.

  • At 12:34 PM, Blogger nath

    Good luck Devonna for B&N :D Sounds really promising, so I hope you get the job, esp. if that's what you want :D

    As for matchmaking, well I wish you good luck too :D and you can take it any way you want: good luck for having a good time, good luck for him being the one, good luck for trying to avoid it :P

  • At 12:44 PM, Blogger Mailyn

    I'm the other way around. If I meet a guy and we chat for a while and I think he is cool and he asks then I give him my #. Then I go on a date, but only well lit public places and we arrive and leave on our own cars. Yeah, did I tell you I was paranoid? LOL.

    I love being in crowds but with mostly people I don't know because then they won't bother me. Yeah, so I'm not a people person and honestly the majority of people annoy the hell out of me. That's why I like the net so much. You can ignore the stupid people and hang out/get to know the ones you really click with.


  • At 5:20 PM, Blogger Stacy~

    LOL, Mailyn. I'm not much of a people person either, yet both of my jobs were/are customer service - go figure.

    Devonna, I hope everything goes okay with this guy, but don't sweat it. Trust your instincts. I believe it's better to be alone and happy than it is to be stuck with someone. It'll happen. How awful about the expresso machine incident. Those things are scary. Fortunately nothing bad has happened at my store. I hope you weren't seriously hurt.

  • At 5:43 PM, Blogger Kristie (J)

    Since it's a group thing it doesn't sound so bad. He'd be easy to ignore if things aren't good, but you have the comfort of others around if you click.

    But yea - someone trying to set me up all the time would bug the heck out of me too!

  • At 6:07 PM, Blogger Devonna

    Nath ~ I think I start in November. I know it'll be busy, but I'd rather be busy than not have anything to do :-)

    Mailyn ~ Agreed! I'm not good in crowds, but in a case like this I'd rather be in a group than alone with soneone. That way I have someone to talk to if it don't work out :-)

    Stacy ~ I recovered, but still have a scar. Just one of those freak things that happens. Did I mention that espresso machine was in a chinese restaurant?

    Kristie ~ On the bright side, if I do this maybe they (the matchmakers) will let up on me for awhile? Sheesh.