I had a crush on this guy back in high school. We were pretty good friends. He was fun to be around. He also had a girl friend who he started dating a year before I clued in that I had a crush on him. They just broke up in 2003. My youngest sister gets around, big time. I hate to even admit she's my sister, sometimes. Anyways be darned if she didn't date this guy I had the crush on for 2 years. She ditched him back in 2005. I have been with my common-law for almost 10 years, but had a really hard time when my sister was dating the crush. I clued in to the fact that I've never gotten over this guy.
I'm not one for dating myself. It's so hard to find the right person. I can't say I'm with the love of my life right now, but I think we are compatable. We've never broke up in the 10 years we've been together. And we've had some pretty hard times. We hardly ever fight. We don't keep secrets. He accepts the fact that I'm not perfect (I'm about 80 pounds over weight. He is a hard-worker, and a good provider. He really is my best friend. And I'm happy with that.
I couldn't imagine being single at this stage of my life. I hope everything works out for you Dev
I think you should go, too, if only to say you did. MM and I met under almost exactly the same circumstances (a friend of mine told a friend of his that I wanted to meet him while his friend told him the exact same thing, then I got roped into a group outing and the rest is history) so you never know, this Larry guy could be your lobster.
Or, this Larry guy could be the boost you need to either get over Crush boy or get on with telling him how you really feel. Either way not a bad situation.
But I'll tell you this...going out with him in a group setting does NOT mean you have to give him your # or go on a follow up date. It's just a group outing, babe.
I vote go out with Larry guy too. What can it hurt in a group date. I also agree with whoever said he might not be the man of your dreams but it could be the jump start you need to get our of the Mr. Crush doldrums.
Also, I know you are shy, but why not invite Mr. Crush for coffee for lunch and if he doesn't get the picture you are interested you can at least move on.
I agree that you should go too. I know it's hard, but just remember it's one date, not a commitment, and who knows? You might at least get Mr. Crush to notice, to find someone who you could imagine being with.
Being single isn't the worst thing in the world, but at least you gotta try. I can't imagine you settling, but I think there are more guys out there than just Mr. Crush, and the only way to meet them to jump in the dating game. I hope you have a good time Dev. Hugs.
Well I'm just going to add my voice to all those who said you should go... maybe he'll be the one, maybe not... however, even if he's not, you might have fun and gain a new friend :D Seriously, you got nothing to lose and plus, it's a group date.
However, you might want to tell your best friend not to do it again without telling you :P
At 8:52 PM, Kristie (J)
And I'm adding my vote also to the go out with him group. You might have a thing for Mr. Crush, but this blind date might just be the one to help you get over it. And if it's in a group, the pressure is off. Just go with an open mind, maybe he's the one, maybe he's not, but if you don't go, you'll never know.
Firstly, go out on the date with Larry. He might be really nice - and I met my hubby under very similar circumstances. You just never know.
At least it is a group date and you will not be alone with him if he does turn out to be a weirdo.
As for Mr. Crush - give me his name and phone number and I will settle the whole thing for you! (Only kidding)
Seriously, if Mr. Crush knows you are out doing other stuff, it might wake him up a bit - and if he is not interested in you Sweets, he is insane!